Thursday, November 26, 2009

The wierdest Thanksgiving I've ever had.......

My thanksgiving this year has been so strange. But through the strangeness sometimes the greatest feelings of gratitude are born. It's been a quiet day spent at home, with Ben sick on the couch and Charlie gone. Andy and I sat and had some thanksgiving leftovers together, just the two of us. Ben was able to have a little pie and a roll. It's the smallest and quietest Thanksgiving I've ever experienced.

Most of my family knows that Ben was in the ER on Monday night with bad kidney stone pain (which is "old hat" for him and he usually toughs it out) but this time he was throwing up and couldn't keep down water so he finally went in for some relief.

Four hours and one cat scan later we learn that the stone he is passing is the size of a peanut and there's many more much larger ones that would be impossible to pass. Anyone who has had a kidney stone knows that they are agony and a peanut is HUGE. We are waiting till next week and he'll meet with a specialist to see how to deal with all the rest.

He has had no progress and so he's still medicated and waiting, waiting. We were supposed to go to Manti today for Thanksgiving but he isn't well enough to go. So last night I sent my Charlie off to Manti till Saturday night with his aunt and uncle.

This is where the gratitude begins. Ben's sister Laura and her husband Bret have been so amazing to us. We love them so much. Laura babysits my kids twice a week while I work, and does a great job. They are always helping us out. They were so willing to take Charlie down there with him and the rest of the family was so glad Charlie could join them. I'm so thankful that I have such a wonderful in-law family to call my own. They are all warm and loving and fun people and I feel blessed to have them in my life. My son is so lucky to be able to spend this holiday with his wonderful Grandma Nita, aunts, uncles and cousins, and Grandpa Bob and Grandma Gayle.

When my parents heard about our situation, they drove an hour and a half to bring us a Thanksgiving dinner. I can't cook much because Ben is right in the middle of tiling my kitchen floor, I have no oven or running water in the kitchen. My brother Lance came along and he and my Dad gave Ben a blessing. I am thankful for the Priesthood and the comfort it can bring in times of illness. I'm so thankful for my parents and siblings and the support and love they show us. Lynette's husband Jared is probably going to come and finish our tiling and I appreciate it SO much. I know it's a lot of time and work. I come from a great family and I love each and every one of them!

I'm so thankful for my wonderful sons who brighten my life. I miss Charlie already so much, but we've also enjoyed giving Andy some one on one time. They are great kids, healthy and happy kids. We are so blessed.

I am thankful for my loving husband Ben. When someone is sick and the worry sets in it also makes you hyper-aware of how much you love someone. He is my rock, and I love him dearly. He is a wonderful husband, kind, patient, hardworking, self-sacrificing and fun. He's also a great Dad and my kids really look up to their Daddy. They come running with arms wide open every time he comes home from work. Please send your prayers out for Ben and a speedy recovery.

I'm thankful for my good girlfriends. I am thankful for my good home, neighbors, job, and life.
My day today may have been quiet and strange, but it really has also helped me realize all of the things in it that make it so good.

Happy Thanksgiving!

7 comments:

Kendall and Lee'sa said...

We had a strange one too.
I'm sorry to hear about how bad the stones are. Have you heard that things with oxilation in them make stones come on? Such as wheat, chocolate, spinach, popcorn, nuts.
Also, cranberry helps keep them a little smaller if they do come. I take a cranberry pill every day and have only had one big one this pregnancy. Coke and asparagus can also help break up big ones.
I wish him luck in getting rid of them and hope they stay away! Happy Thanksgiving!

Bree said...

I've heard lemons help. the acid breaks them down.

Start spiking his water with a bit of lemon! It couldn't hurt!!!

Glad that you have some awesome family to help you out when you need it most! I so understand!!! :/

Andrea said...

To quote a wise, almost 6-year-old, "Well...I guess sometimes families don't stick together." I'm still laughing about that, he's so funny! I guess we all need a reminder once in a while of how important our loved ones are to us. I hope Ben starts to feel better.

Lyman and Kim said...

Sorry to hear Ben isn't feeling himself! I hope that the specialist will provide a solution of relief for him soon. Please let us know if we can help in ANY way. We would be happy to bring out dinner, come pick up the boys, etc. I too appreciate all that my family and extended family has done for us and I would love to pay it forward!

Gina said...

Christina, My heart just aches for you. I was writing a long comment, but it was just silly. Bless your parents for bringing you thanksgiving. I hope Ben's problem is figured out and thrown far far away from your life.
love, gina

Laura said...

Your post made me cry! We did miss you guys at Thanksgiving. We will have to make up for it with a ski day! And we loved taking Charlie, they had a lot of fun.

Nicole & Ammon said...

I hope Ben is getting better! That is awesome of your parents to bring you Thanksgiving dinner!!!